tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post8512743966617097868..comments2024-02-15T00:57:03.420-08:00Comments on - Privilege: How You Know Your Children Have Grown, Or, Saturday Morning at 7:50amLPChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-54993027673761143762010-10-20T11:50:23.444-07:002010-10-20T11:50:23.444-07:00Your lovely posts about motherhood are so welcome ...Your lovely posts about motherhood are so welcome in an internet saturated with sappy/whining posts from mothers. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-65974372364495175532010-10-18T13:27:29.856-07:002010-10-18T13:27:29.856-07:00Such a wonderful post. Truly.Such a wonderful post. Truly.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03948476830389001938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-78883391983484199982010-10-18T10:58:07.276-07:002010-10-18T10:58:07.276-07:00Lovely thoughts. One of the things that I most app...Lovely thoughts. One of the things that I most appreciate lately is the company of my grown children. What a gift!<br />Best,<br />ColleenNorth of 25Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07927245858208029154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-42886721724880459462010-10-17T20:50:37.234-07:002010-10-17T20:50:37.234-07:00The milestones as everyone commonly knows them are...The milestones as everyone commonly knows them are "presets" and might not necessarily be the moments that truly <i>mean</i> the most, to me anyway. The memories that I treasure, so far, are the little snippets of every day ordinary, not commemorated in the usual way, but forever tucked away and cherished all the same.Buckeroomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02408502555249594576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-70808227969819547282010-10-17T19:18:23.542-07:002010-10-17T19:18:23.542-07:00Marcella, twins! Bless you! We had a 20-month old ...Marcella, twins! Bless you! We had a 20-month old daughter when we welcomed twin daughters! What a busy time we had - for years and years. Now the oldest is 37 (born on my 33rd birthday), and the twins will be 36 two days before Christmas! One is married, and we now have two grandchildren. <br /><br />Lisa, our biggest question is, "When did it all happen - this growing up into marvelous young women?" The time just seemed to fly by, and I know we were left standing at the "starting gate" at times.:-) It is such a joy to know they are content with the choices they have made. It is also good to know their distance from us is not that far - one is one hour away, her twin sister (and the grandchildren) is two hours away, and our oldest is three hours away. We manage to work in a lot of family time, in spite of the distance.Nelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00731594872663348711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-18903321589229318022010-10-17T11:04:52.371-07:002010-10-17T11:04:52.371-07:00ps - you are so right, it's not about the '...ps - you are so right, it's not about the 'big' things but rather the little moments. i remember one day being alone and folding everyones socks and putting them away and thinking/feeling that this was the best day of my entire life.the gardener's cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447809353998632722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-24423975016635835782010-10-17T11:02:51.103-07:002010-10-17T11:02:51.103-07:00what a lovely, touching, heartwarming story. you&...what a lovely, touching, heartwarming story. you've got me reminiscing now. that's a really good thing. thanks.<br /><br />~janetthe gardener's cottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447809353998632722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-58726681163666701692010-10-17T09:22:35.978-07:002010-10-17T09:22:35.978-07:00Lisa - I know exactly what you mean. Because if sh...Lisa - I know exactly what you mean. Because if she doesn't know you are watching, it's about who she is completely independent of you. <br /><br />Maureen - Thank you so much. These are personal memories - having them be valuable to others is such a joy to me.<br /><br />PoiseMatters - Thank you. And congratulations on your son and his new job. That is wonderful.<br /><br />FF - Thank you. And the thought of your future baby brings a smile to my face.<br /><br />Semi - I know, that first moment when you realize that in fact they can leave the house. They are portable, they exist in mundane reality, not just that exalted space where you first nurse them and carry them so carefully.<br /><br />EM - I have boxes I've kept of baby clothes, just a few, as souvenirs. I have no plans for them other than to caress them now and again. Rebecca sounds like a smart and aware cookie.<br /><br />Vogue - I love to hear the daughter side of all this.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-23595072828177884262010-10-17T09:05:20.868-07:002010-10-17T09:05:20.868-07:00Duchesse - "We see them, at those moments, in...Duchesse - "We see them, at those moments, in a world that will only become more and more theirs." That's it. There is in all this also a sense of my own aging. <br /><br />agirl - Aw. You are a sweet daughter.<br /><br />Flo - Oh My Gosh. A Fellow HW. Good looking is pronounced exactly like that! So happy to meet you, and thank you for reading backwards. I have not found my misplaced job, but a few things are in the works as a free-lancer, which fit my current inclinations pretty well. Thank you for asking.<br /><br />Town and Country - Oh I know. Babies in the supermarket, moms see me smiling, and I'm just remembering. Even though the babies are cute, they aren't as cute as my memories.<br /><br />Loretta - I agree. The relationship between my kids, who are also friends, is one of my happiest things.<br /><br />Splurgie - Thank you so much.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-74471111802448664822010-10-17T08:54:58.214-07:002010-10-17T08:54:58.214-07:00Stephanie - Oh, enjoy your baby girl smooching. It...Stephanie - Oh, enjoy your baby girl smooching. It's a good thing they have cheeks, right? Thank you.<br /><br />Mette - Thank you and you are welcome in return. We mostly all do the best we can.<br /><br />Lori - I didn't find it went all that fast, just that it was gone once it was gone.<br /><br />kathleen - Thank you.<br /><br />A Gift Wrapped - Oh lordy I wish I had a better memory! I envy the mothers now, writing blogs and posting videos. Think of all they have to sort through.<br /><br />Stacy - Your daughter sounds wonderful. Good work:).LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-63347421032382081742010-10-17T08:41:49.487-07:002010-10-17T08:41:49.487-07:00Rochelle - Motherhood is not a fair deal on the fa...Rochelle - Motherhood is not a fair deal on the face of it:). There are compensations...<br /><br />TPP - Thank you. Oddly, I didn't feel poignant while writing. It was just a set of data points.<br /><br />Hostess - How fun to have a little fashionista! My daughter didn't care at all about clothes when she was young, but now is quite stylish.<br /><br />lauren - I am honored.<br /><br />Marcela - I bet those first 18 months were very very difficult. And I hope you enjoy your 2 year olds. It's a great time, when they are talking and beginning to gather themselves up as peope.<br /><br />QBS - Yeah, dang it:).LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-66027305646402588862010-10-17T08:19:39.066-07:002010-10-17T08:19:39.066-07:00Aww...just another log to fuel the fire of my week...Aww...just another log to fuel the fire of my week of homesickness. I have done the exact same thing as your daughter at home at the kitchen table, picking at my mother's homemade soups and breads with one eye on the computer screen. Thanks for sharing this. It is a beautiful insight of a mother's love to reinforce what mine always says "You'll never understand until you have a child of your own."The Uppity Puppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05137126316592649449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-42539729664279171192010-10-17T02:51:20.848-07:002010-10-17T02:51:20.848-07:00Your post brought tears to my eyes... Rebecca, abo...Your post brought tears to my eyes... Rebecca, about to turn 12, is clearly no longer a little girl. This week she packed up all her American Girl dolls and sent them to the basement -- with a firm "don't seal this box permanently mom." She gave her stuffed animals to her little brother... I've slowly been going through their old clothes... so many lovely, wonderful items... oh the money I spent on them when they were little! And so I have been packaging them up too and bringing them to a lovely children's consignment boutique. I went in yesterday with another box to see a mother carefully caressing a Hannah Anderson that she pulled from the rack. The dress was Rebecca's not that long ago. The store was crowded. I carried my box back out...Jessica Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12026783815905169830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-15125396711210305562010-10-17T01:50:22.751-07:002010-10-17T01:50:22.751-07:00Such a lovely post LPC. So poignant. I remember th...Such a lovely post LPC. So poignant. I remember the first time I put my daughter into her car seat and drove on my own with her in the car - I was so nervous I felt sick. And, as you say they grow up oh, so fast and all the while take these significant steps - I am looking forward to the time she answers work emails too. How strange will that be! xSemi Expathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12839322243900070800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-12952374013312020672010-10-17T00:37:11.147-07:002010-10-17T00:37:11.147-07:00Gee you're on a VERITABLE ROLL with this post!...Gee you're on a VERITABLE ROLL with this post!!! Love it. I will remember this for when I become a mother.Faux Fuchsiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317677066408030053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-55605598984915482602010-10-16T19:20:27.537-07:002010-10-16T19:20:27.537-07:00I so enjoyed your post on your grown up daughter, ...I so enjoyed your post on your grown up daughter, you write so beautifully and it reminds me of when my children were young. Last weekend my husband and I spent the weekend in Arizona with my 25 year old son and observed how he is navigating his new role as a media relations manager for a sports team with the University Of Arizona. Where did he learn to be so politically correct? I admired his beautiful home in Tucson and I feel so blessed to have two wonderful sons. thank you for your post - I truly enjoyed it.PoiseMattershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17918293275656798390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-90782596442680839122010-10-16T18:40:15.319-07:002010-10-16T18:40:15.319-07:00I have experienced one or two of these moments, ye...I have experienced one or two of these moments, yet could never put words to them. Thankfully, you did it for me. Beautiful.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10198477292452749031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-71819024479104972292010-10-16T18:19:45.758-07:002010-10-16T18:19:45.758-07:00This had been my favorite read all day long. You ...This had been my favorite read all day long. You just get it. You also know how to express it perfectly so that others understand.<br /><br />I call them (those moments) anniversaries of the heart. They are usually about the little things. My favorite anniversaries are times when I just watch her cook breakfast and she doesn't realize I'm watching. You know what I mean.<br /><br />xoLisa Porterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13784837037604401287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-48033561627138173102010-10-16T15:55:26.159-07:002010-10-16T15:55:26.159-07:00Wonderful post! It made me think of all the moment...Wonderful post! It made me think of all the moments in my son's life too. You're so right that they aren't the conventional milestones. They happen when we least expect them.Sevenbeadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17408190872701308055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-86699662528942298302010-10-16T15:40:25.445-07:002010-10-16T15:40:25.445-07:00My youngest drove home from college by herself for...My youngest drove home from college by herself for the first time last night. She kissed me hello and then grabbed her older sister and hugged her for about 60 seconds. I was outside that moment, looking at them from far away as if seeing their lives together long after their father and I were gone. I was happy and I have to admit, sad for a brief moment for myself.Lorettahttp://artjournaler.typepad.com/pomegranatesandpaper/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-52703259006703674412010-10-16T15:27:45.801-07:002010-10-16T15:27:45.801-07:00Just this afternoon, the Mister and I were having ...Just this afternoon, the Mister and I were having coffee in our neighborhood place, and we were watching two expectant moms with their toddlers. One little fellow was dancing around, and I was smiling at him. The Mister said, "You know, that woman thinks you're smiling because her boy is so cute. But I know you're smiling because you're remembering." Enjoy your daughter's visit, Lisa.Town and Country Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00842299632895569707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-1576064623223056242010-10-16T14:31:01.107-07:002010-10-16T14:31:01.107-07:00Saturday Afternoon, All the Way Across The United ...Saturday Afternoon, All the Way Across The United States from where you are, I have read and read and read your posts from way back, there were so many voices of recognition, my favorite is that your mother said never refer to a tuxedo as anything but a dinner jacket, as though spoken verbatim by my father, my gawd. I also shifted my weight at your comment that your mother uses the term 'good looking' to confer an object's greatness, mine too, and I bet the accent falls like so: good-LOOK'-ing. As I said, I've been all over your archives this afternoon, quite the pleasure, just this one query so I may get my bearings, did you ever find your missplaced job?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-5061900281635063882010-10-16T13:53:04.459-07:002010-10-16T13:53:04.459-07:00All of a sudden I ache for my mother.All of a sudden I ache for my mother.ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07856519830658694366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-16077544331826306582010-10-16T13:36:15.656-07:002010-10-16T13:36:15.656-07:00We see them, at those moments. in a world that wil...We see them, at those moments. in a world that will only become more and more theirs. Thank you for capturing that tender space when they are still ours (for to us, they always will be) even as they enter that world.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5536011140055575088.post-68434703792944703302010-10-16T12:57:51.237-07:002010-10-16T12:57:51.237-07:00Just finished going to an art exhibit with my moth...Just finished going to an art exhibit with my mother, her 3 friends and my 23 yo daughter. At lunch after,I marveled how she handled this social situation, especially how tolerant she was of the overly chatty guest and how loving she was with her grandmother. It's so wonderful and gratifying to see her navigate the world as an adult, as opposed to seeing her as my child. <br /><br />StacyfrPghAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com